October 15th was Pregnancy & Infant Loss Awareness Day, this is a day that is very near to my heart. Early in my marriage we lost 2 babies to miscarriage. I was young and the loss was really hard to go through. I have always felt that miscarriage is such a silent loss for so many women. It was hard to pretend that nothing happened like everyone around me had so easily done. I wanted my babies remembered. Because to me they were every bit my babies, not just a positive pregnancy test or a cluster of cells and tissue. I had several ultrasounds with our first baby and had heard the heart beat. We had started making plans for that baby and I had just went shopping for maternity clothes when we suddenly had to say goodbye. It was an overwhelming loss. I was really moved by an organization that I learned about from a friend. Molly Bears is a wonderful organization that provides weighted teddy bears to parents who have lost a child due to miscarriage, still birth, SIDS, etc. These bears are an amazing way to help parents and siblings who are grieving a loss. Having something to hold onto can be such a huge thing for a parent to have. These bears can also be personalized and have little touches added to help bring personality to them. Little colored ribbons and hearts are added to give each and every bear a unique quality.
Here is the story of Molly Christine:
Molly BearWe lost our angel, Molly Christine at 34 weeks, on May 30th 2010. I had not felt our active girl all day on the 29th. That night I went to the hospital to get checked and make sure Molly was alright. We were told that our precious daughter no longer had a heartbeat. She died from a tight true knot in her cord. Devastated would not even begin to describe how we felt.
I was given a weighted teddy bear from a dear friend from high school. This bear weighed three pounds. In an effort to have a bear that weighed the same as Molly, I bought a shell and a package of rice. In the middle of the produce isle, I carefully weighed rice, fluff and the shell. I am sure people thought I was crazy, but I did not care. I went home and with my children and husband, we created the very first Molly Bear. For the first time in weeks, I was able to sleep holding her. It was then that I knew I had to find a way to help other angel families.
I started making these bears for other angel mommies that I had become close to in several support groups. I had committed to one bear per paycheck and soon I had requests and a desire to make more. I went to my sister Amanda and I was venting about what I wanted and that I wasn’t sure how to make it happen. In a few hours she called me back with a plan, and within a week we jumped in - feet first.
We officially started in August 2010 and currently have over 7,000 orders and have created over 5,500 bears. We are in 50 states and 24 countries. Often times we are in awe of the amount of people who say Molly’s name. Words can not describe how humbled we are. This road has been hard and continues to be long, but we travel one day at a time and we are in wonderful company.
If this has touched your heart and you feel like you would like to donate to help this organization keep giving bears you can do so Here.
Here is some information about how Molly Bears operates:
We exist to create weighted teddy bears and loving support to grieving families enduring the death of an infant. Please see the About page for more info.
Molly Bears exists to create a positive and comforting impact to families enduring any form of infant loss.
Molly Bears is a Non profit 501(c)3
We make bears to equal the weight of your angel. If weight is unknown, such as for a miscarriage, we can use an approximate weight for the gestational age of the baby.
Please see the General Information section for our policies and ordering information.
Molly Bears is a non-profit organization that creates weighted teddy bears for families coping with infant loss. MollyBears.com is also an online community of support for families that have suffered a death of an infant.
Here are some of our policies:
We make weighted bears for all stages of pregnancy loss and infant loss up to 12 months of age.
We require that a parent of the angel place the order. We do not allow surprise bears.
We are able to weight the bears from as little as half an ounce to as much as 14 pounds. If your angel weighed more than 14 pounds and was under 12 months of age, then we can use the baby's birth weight or some other significant weight under 14 pounds.
We cover up to $15 in shipping costs.