What do YOU feel is the perfect age gap in siblings?? We are at the point that my husband says he is ready for another little one but I am not so sure. Little man will be two on August 17th. I personally would like my kids AT LEAST 3 years apart...maybe closer to four. What are your feelings?
I think 3 years apart is good. I want to start trying for my second when my daughter is two years old.
ReplyDeleteI think a lot of it depends on how many kids you want. My husband and I wanted at least 4 kids but I didn't want to be having kids when I was super 'old'. We have 4 boys, all 2 years apart (they all have summer birthdays, so we pretty much had one every two years). And I think it's the perfect spacing. They are close enough to be good friends but also will have their own different interests and friends.
ReplyDeleteI am due in September with #2. My daughter will be exactly 2 1/2. I think this age difference is perfect for us.
ReplyDeleteIn reality though, there are good and bad things to having them REALLY close and having them REALLY far apart or somewhere in the middle.
3 years apart is a good span....As the Allen family says though.........2 years apart.....they play together.
ReplyDeleteReally, What is it that YOU would like? You carry the child and do a large part of caring for it. So your vote is worth......3 to hubby's 1. lolol
I would say 4 years apart unless you plan on having many children.
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Nancy
Mine are 2 years and 3 months apart, they fight all the time. I don't know if it's better or worse the further apart they are.
ReplyDeleteMy kids are 4 years apart, and I found it to be perfect! My son just turned 5 when my daughter was born, and he decided himself to be my little helper. And he helped me sooo much! Now, he is 10, she is 6, they play together well, he helps her with school stuff and she "helps" him with his projects! I think 3-4 years is a good gap!
ReplyDeleteNow, on the other hand, my 2 little sisters are 2 years apart,and they fight like cats and dogs! They have never been close and it breaks my heart! It's strange but I think another year and things may have been better for those 2, mabye it's just them, not sure!
I had mine 3 years apart, and I think that is the best, because then you no longer have one in diapers (hopefully), and he/she is walking a little self-sufficiant with eating and drinking and talking. But, they are still close enough to play together, while the older one can help the younger one with things like reading, tieing shoes, talking, walking, etc.
ReplyDeleteHowever, you need to take into account your own situation, financially, and your first childs emotional and physical maturity. Good luck with your decision.
I am the oddball here... My first 2 are 18 months apart, and my middle and last are 20 months apart. I love it, and so do they! They play together like best friends most of the time. My youngest will be 2 next month, and I want another, but worry that they'll be too far apart (esp. by the time I can talk DH into another!).
ReplyDelete3 and 4 years apart to me seems like an eternity!
about 2-2.5 years apart is great! They are such better friends when they are closer in age. If they are too far apart, the younger one seem to take so much longer to be old enough to play! My kids range in spacing from 16 months to 2.5 years and the best spacings have been the ones closer to 2 years.
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